Oil Massage

Is your relationship sinking to a bad case of bed death? Have you tried BDSM fantasies only to find them a complete turn-off? Don’t despair. You don’t need whips and chains to keep a relationship alive. Many vanilla couples have found erotic yet gentle techniques that take them to the moon. One of these techniques is sensual massage using aromatherapy massage oil. With aromatherapy massage oil, exploring your partner’s body through massage can be an amazingly erotic experience for both the person giving and the person getting the massage. This article takes a look at the most common types of sensual aromatherapy massage oil and how to use it for an unforgettable sexual experience.When couples feel their erotic relationship is becoming stagnant, many of them believe they’re “supposed” to spice things up with games of dominance and submission, perhaps using restraint or a light spanking. But not all couples enjoy bondage or pain or playing a superior or inferior role.

If you’re one of those vanilla couples, why not explore the many pleasures of sensuous massage? Since massages can take over an hour (much over, if lovemaking follows!), you usually need to plan the massage and get the supplies you need a few days in advance.

Aromatherapy massage oils are available at most health food stores and body shops, and there is also a wonderful collection online. Infinite Health Resources, for instance, has a sensuous massage oil with a light jasmine scent. If you want to get oral play involved, check out Green Dragon Herbals which offers edible aromatherapy massage oils with enticing names like “big bad banana” and “cherry on top.” Finally, if you’re altogether new to the scene of aromatherapy massage oil, you might want to consider purchasing a starter kit from Romantic Gifts.com.

Say the time has arrived. You and your partner have given the kids money for a long movie, picked out your aromatherapy massage oil, and are ready to start. But where do you go? Some couples who practice massage use special tables, but these are expensive and not at all necessary for the occasional sensual massage. The floor and the bed are perfectly suitable substitutes. Make sure you have plenty of towels to wipe off excess massage oil and handle drips. You may also want to gather up a few pillows to ease your partner into a more comfortable position. You may want to put on some of your favorite romantic CDs and/or light some candles to set the mood.

Make sure the room is warm enough or that you and your partner are wearing robes or draped with towels–feeling half frozen is not in the least sensuous. Have your partner lie on his or her stomach, and begin with a back rub. The back is a fairly neutral, safe area, and as you massage your partner’s back with the aromatherapy massage oil you have selected, you can get an idea of how much pressure he or she likes. Start out lightly and slowly intensify, keeping an eye out for any signs of discomfort such as stiffening the muscles or grunting.

Keep your hands flowing in a continuous rhythm–you may want to check out a massage techniques DVD from the library to show you some awesome moves. After you have worked on your partner’s back for a while, slowly move the area of your strokes lower to his or her buttocks. Most people enjoy deep pressure on the buttocks. Your partner may even ask you to use your elbow to increase pressure. Another drive-your-partner-crazy move is to put gentle pressure on the sacrum (the tailbone) pushing gently down and in the direction of the neck.

If talking is a part of your erotic experience, be sure to tell your partner how beautiful you find his or her body and what you want to do to it later.

Massage the backs of your partner’s thighs and legs, then have him or her turn over. The feet are an often overlooked erogenous zone. Take your time with them, kissing and caressing each toe. If you have edible aromatherapy massage oil, now may be the time to take it out.

Continue to work up your partner’s legs to the thighs. Spend a long time on the thighs, gently teasing your partner, moving your hands a little higher with each stroke. Caress and tease your partner’s genitals when you reach them, however if your partner is a man, you may want to be careful about getting massage oil on the genitals. The skin is very sensitive and may become irritated.

If your partner is a woman, finish the massage by gliding your oiled hands between and around her breasts. Do not apply pressure unless she asks you to. Women’s breasts are very sensitive to the touch.

After the massage, and any sexual activity that comes after, has ended, take a shower together while you plan your next massage date.